(THE NA’ZIYAH HARRIS STORY)
This is a sad, despicable, and completely true, relevant and horrible story that is unfortunately becoming an everyday occurrence in a lot of our communities these days and that is ongoing sexual abuse and even murder of children by their mothers’ boyfriends and sometimes the mothers know it as well as relatives, neighbors, teachers, even case workers.
That’s the case of Na’ziyah Harris.
Na’ziyah went missing when she was only 13 years old from her home in Detroit. For a year they searched for her but never found her. They then connected her with Jarvis butts her aunt’s boyfriend. Jarvis a serial child rapist raped a 4-year-old girl and gave her a disease and a 8 year old girl who was a family member in 2005. In spite of that the aunt still decided to move him in with her. In court they found out that the grandmother, the aunt and some of Jarvis friends and even the school had reason to believe that sexual abuse was happening but nothing was done.
They also found out that Na’ziyah might have been pregnant, and Jarvis was trying to figure out how to get rid of the baby.
The saddest part is that not one of the adults in that baby’s life ever gave a damn about her, they never even showed any emotion in court but they all had their hair, nails and fits right like they was being interviewed for a show. The only person who showed any emotions was another aunt. You’re probably asking what difference does that make? It makes a lot of difference in the grand scheme of things. The grandmother had adopted this child because her daughter was on drugs and couldn’t take care of her, but she only did that for the money because the child had to ask her rapist for money to get feminine products and such which tells you a lot. He had been molesting her since she was 11 and she was being sent up to his shop to so-call work for him along with her other girl cousins. He never had his sons come to help just the girls, and the aunt, and grandmother would send them.
I’m saying that to say this, many times in families there are secrets that people keep. Did you know that 93% of victims under the age of 18 know their abusers. Sometimes it’s in the family, family friends, neighbors and most of the time it’s BOYFRIENDS
In yet another case of sexual abuse by the mother’s boyfriend. Sabrina Giller not only knew that her 6-year-old daughter was being sexually abused by her boyfriend Ryan Cooper she did nothing to stop it. As in the case of Na’ziyah not only did the mother know the grandmother knew, the grandfather suspected it, co workers and friends knew as well but nobody stopped it.
Another case so eerily similar to Na’ziyah was the case of Madeline Soto who was 11 when she first started getting sexually abused by her mother’s boyfriend Stephen Sterns until she was 13 and later allegedly killed by him, but the investigation is still ongoing. Jennifer Soto the mother had nothing to say.
This next case hits too close to home for me because I saw this happen to a girl when I was in upper grade school and her mother told her to just let her real father have sex with her so he would leave (the mother) alone makes me want to beat her mofo ass.
Sophie had to deal with this for years with her mother’s permission. This sick mofo brain washed this desperate dehydrated thirsty woman because she just wanted to be loved and she was willing to use her daughter to get it. For those of us who saw Tyler Perry movie where the mother used her daughter so she could live a glamorous life even if her daughter was being beaten and abused everyday by this man she didn’t care as long as she could have the life she said she deserved that’s this case the only difference she getting crumbs and even if it was millions there is not enough money for this. This sick bastard didn’t show any signs of being a child abuser or so the mother and grandmother said. I beg to differ. Just by reading how he treated her is a big red flag. They both said he was a car thief, and they thought that’s all he did. Her Moma said he was a perfect man. WHAT? He charmed his way into her house by cooking, cleaning the house, massaging her feet, doing her toes, getting her hair done, buying the kids clothes and toys, taking them out to eat especially the kids to get ice cream. I’m sorry that’s a damn RED BANNER flying in her face. At 10 Sophie was pregnant and with the help of the caseworker she gave the baby up for adoption, but before she did that, she asked her grandmother can I still play with my baby dolls even if I have a baby and her grandmother said yes. A year later she tried to kill herself and she had to be put in a mental institution.
This final case is so egregious, and it also hits home for me. Years ago, there was a girl I was friends with, and she had a new boyfriend who used to beat her and then he started beating her 2-year-old son. One day she asked me to babysit for her while she went to the store because she had left him for the thousandth time, but I thought she was really serious this time, so I said yes. While she was gone her boyfriend came to get her son and I wouldn’t let him go so he called her up and I spoke to her and she said it was ok to let him go with him and I tried to tell her I would keep him until she came back but she was like no he will be alright so I had to let him take him. That night they got to fighting and he beat her unconscious and took her son and the next day they found him in the dumpster beaten to death with an iron.
This story is so triggering for me as I write this story I can see that little boy face. Well, that’s what happened here. The mother’s boyfriend was convicted of the beating death of his girlfriend’s 2-year-old son. They found cuts and bruises on the baby’s body, Hite the boyfriend said he grabbed him by his neck and popped him several times on his stomach and legs before he found him in the tub. After his death the medical examiner found head trauma, brain hemorrhaging and numerous internal injuries on the stomach and scars and wounds in various stages of healing on his torso legs and right arm.
What I find is the common denominator among these cases is the women were so desperate thirsty and dehydrated to be loved by a man they ignored ALL the red flags and when they found out they didn’t care as long as they got what they wanted. I know that sounds so crazy cold and calculated but its facts and everyday we see it being revealed with women of all ages and colors especially now that most of the black men, Latino’s and some white men are locked up.
I know this is such a horrifying horrendous and gruesome article, but I feel in my spirit that I must warn ALL THE SINGLE LADIES OUT IN THESE STREETS. There are predators preying on LONELY WOMEN WITH KIDS. They have a history of targeting and befriending women to get close to them just to sexually abuse their daughters and now it’s even the sons being sexually abused. They are dangerous! I know that I am old but I haven’t forgot what it feels like to be loved and made love to, but at what cost ladies. REALLY! So, here’s a little advice for my single ladies looking for love, relationships, companionships, situationships, sexualships, whatever.
The next time you get an itch to get some go to their house, never let them come to your house, don’t even let them know where you live. The best is to meet him at the mo-mo fuck him and keep it moving. There is nothing that says he has to live with you. It doesn’t make you less than if you just got to have it. My personnel recommendation is to wait for at least 6 months before you have sex until you really get to know him when he’s mad, sad, hungry, tired, or sick. IJS
“MOFO” from street
“desperate dehydrated thirsty” from Tony Gaskins
This was the last time NA’ZIYAH HARRIS was seen
IN THESE SITUATIONS WHERE THE MOM KNOWS SHE SHOULD GO TO PRISON TOO!!!
These are signs of abuse for 0-3 years of age like:
- Any injuries to the genital or anal area
- Painful urination or bowel movement
- Sore throats or trouble swallowing
- Excessive crying
- Regressive behavior such as thumb-sucking or bedwetting
These are signs of abuse for 2-9 years of age like:
- Difficulty walking or sitting
- Urinary and/or bowel accidents
- Exhibits adult-like sexual knowledge, behavior or language
- Reenacts sexual abuse or tries to initiate behavior with siblings or other children
- Exhibits violent behavior towards siblings and other children (biting, hitting, kicking)
· There are signs of abuse for 9 years and older like:
- Depression or withdrawal
- Suicidal thoughts or gestures
- Sudden changes in school performance (plummeting grades, skipping school)
- Drug and alcohol abuse
- Running away from home
Signs Sexual Predators May Exhibit
An adult who is sexually abusing a child may show the following signs:
- Is very protective of the child or limits the child’s contact with others, especially those of the opposite sex
- Refuses to allow the child to socialize with other children or speak to another adult outside of the home
- Secretive
- Offers to babysit or take care of children on overnight trips
- Out of the ordinary interest in physical play with the child (wresting, tickling, kissing, hugging)
- Selects a “special child”
- Has secret interactions with teens or children (e.g., games, sharing drugs, alcohol, or sexual material)
- Frequently walks in on child/teen in the bathroom